Valentine’s Day will soon be upon us! We only have two months to go. For some people it’s a day filled with excitement, for others, it is a day filled with nerves! Will my partner like the gift I have bought them? What if they have spent more on me than I have on them? We’ve not known each other very long, how much effort should I make? Don’t fret! This guide is here to help, presenting you with plenty of tips and some great suggestions.
Don’t try the old “I don’t believe in Valentine’s Day, it’s a commercial event” move – Even if you believe this to be true, don’t do it! Think about the other person and what they want. Yes, you don’t need a dedicated day to show someone how you feel, but this doesn’t mean you should purposely ignore Valentine’s Day. Make your other half feel special!
Choose a sentimental or creative gift – You don’t need to spend a lot of money on Valentine’s Day. For a lot of people, a sentimental gift will mean a lot more than an expensive watch or handbag. Try to show that you have put some thought into the gift you have purchased, and this will mean more than anything.
Stay away from practical gifts – You know that toaster that your girlfriend needs; well don’t buy it for Valentine’s Day! Valentine’s Day is not the occasion to be gifting things that people ‘need’ – choose something that your partner would like, but wouldn’t buy herself. This is why Valentine’s Day roses ever fail. No woman needs roses, do they? But every woman wants them!
Put yourself second – “My girlfriend likes football, so I’ll get tickets to the next Manchester United game.” – No, no, no! Even if your girlfriend does like football, this is a present for you, or for both of you. You should choose a present that is all about your girlfriend. If you want to choose an event, pick a day at a spa or something you wouldn’t do yourself. This shows that you have put them first.
Be careful when buying lingerie – If you have been with your partner for a number of years, you will know whether or not to buy lingerie. However, if you haven’t been with them for very long or you are in the dating stage, buying lingerie is risky. Some women may get offended and feel that it is an inappropriate sexual overture, even if you didn’t mean it that way.
The card you choose and the gifts you buy need to commensurate with the stage you are at in your relationship – If you have only been on a few dates, choose a card that is more playful than mushy, for example. If you have been together for a year or longer, a funny card just won’t cut it.
Brainstorm the things she likes – A final tip is to sit down and brainstorm all of the things that your other half likes. What is her favourite colour? What TV shows does she like? Where are her favourite places to travel to? What’s her dream destination? Where does she shop? Some of the things you write down will prove to be useless, but others will spark off ideas of what to buy.